I was recently told the reason why as you get older, each year feels like it goes by faster than the year before.  It’s a depressing thought; but it’s one worth sharing.


My 32nd birthday dinner with my family.

As you get older, each year is a smaller and smaller fraction of your life.  When you turn 1, that year is your whole life.  When you turn 10, each year is 1/10 of your life.  When you turn 20, each year is 1/20 of your life.  When you’re my age, each year is 1/32 of your life.

If each year is a smaller fraction of your life, then each moment counts more and should be filled in a more fulfilling way.

Instead, I find my time slipping away and I find myself losing whole days.  Last Sunday, for example, I settled down at home at 6 pm and had no clue where the day went after leaving my house at 10 am (piano lesson with my sister, tutored, Costco, nail salon, grocery store, home to walk Finn, picked up takeout with Finn, home for the day).  I hated that even though I completed tasks that needed completing and I could recap the day, I still felt like I lost the day.

Part of my absence has been because of this feeling of losing time.  Besides working a full-time job (that had me on the road for more of February than I was home), I tutor two eighth-grade algebra students, I am part of MJE’s Fellowship Program, I take piano lessons, I WOD, I observe Shabbat and the Jewish holidays, I spend time with friends, and I’m a mom to Finn, among other things I can’t even think of right now.

Every January I set goals for myself for the year.  Even though I didn’t share it publicly, my goal for 2017 was (is?) to make more time for myself.  There were times it worked (few and far between) and times it didn’t (most of the time).  So I need to ask myself three questions and identify their answers:

  1. What activities are the nonnegotiables?
    • Work and work-related travel
    • Tutoring
    • Fellowship activities (Tuesday night’s video conferencing parsha class, Wednesday night’s studying, monthly seminars, other attendance-required classes/events at MJE)
    • Finn’s walks and meals
  2. What are the activities that I do for me?
    • CrossFit WODs
    • Personal training with Trainer J
    • Sessions with a chiropractor on a regular basis to deal with my shoulders, rotator cuffs, back, and hips
    • Cook/meal prep-ish
    • Read
    • Play the piano
    • Write
    • Spend time with friends
  3. What can I do to create more time for me?
    • Audit each day to identify how I spend my time
    • Schedule the open times on an hourly or half-hourly calendar so they’re not wasted even if it means putting down “clear my head”

Now that I sort of have an outline and know what I need to do, my next step is to find the calendar that I’ll be motivated to use and begin the process.

Tell me, dear Fitters, do you find yourself losing time?  How do you get it back?  Can you suggest a calendar?  Let me know in the comments.  Until next time…

2 thoughts on “Time

  1. Phaedrus says:

    I find TV to be the time-killer. Every time I find myself watching anything, I have to see what value it adds and balance that against what I could be doing. The days where I just need to “veg” are the ones I’ll try to find anything else to do lest I start binge watching something.
    As time goes on, days are lost. “Carpe Diem” tends to get misinterpreted as an excuse to live as if tomorrow may not come, but that was not the original intention. “Carpe diem, quam minimum credula postero” (seize the day, trust tomorrow as little as you may) is meant to tell us to put everything we can into today to make tomorrow better. Leave nothing to chance, as it were. You fill your days and work hard on many things for many people, I hope you find time to better your own tomorrow as well.


    • My biggest time suck is my cell phone. I have two games I’m hooked on and Instagram is a rabbit hole. I DVR the TV shows/series I want to watch and usually only turn the TV on when I’m ready to go to bed. It gets turned on for “vegging”, too, though. I greatly appreciate the “Carpe Diem” message and thank you for sharing it. Thank you for your other kind words; you brought a tear to my eye. 🙂 Wishing you wonderful days.


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